The March 28 tip on Mark Granovetter’s concept of “weak ties” got me thinking: Who do I know? Who do I know well? Attending professional association meetings and events is a great place to meet and start building those weak ties; those people Mark says we all need in our network to create bridges to other networks; but making contacts (my definition of a weak tie) is not making a connection.
- Getting to know and understand the person’s goals (work-life—short and long term, business, professional objectives, personal dreams and wants/needs),
- Getting to know and be interested in his/her personal (outside) interests—how they spend their time outside of work—what do they enjoy doing: collect stamps or fine art; where and how they vacation.
- Getting to know and sharing their values—how they go about living day to day and in the workplace; how they fulfill their obligations; how they take responsibility; take credit; give credit.
- Getting to know and appreciate what are they proud of—character, beliefs, intentions, and attitude towards the world,
- Getting to know their expertise; their ability to do the job and how they give their talents, time and treasure to others.
- Getting to know if they care about knowing the same things about you!
And that all takes time, energy, effort and a genuine interest in making a tie, a relationship!